Fear is a liar.
Think about that for a moment.
Sometimes fear is that person, well intentioned or not, words spoken out loud or how they make you feel, who tells you that you can't do it. You can't do it without them. You can't do it because no one in your family has ever done it before. You can't do it because it may not be safe, you don't know how. You aren't good enough, worthy enough, capable.
I've worked intentionally for many, many years (and sometimes over and over again) to remove those people from my life, so instead the voice of fear tends to be in my own head.
I can't do that. Who am I to think that I could do that. No one cares what I have to say. That isn't safe, I'm safer at home. I can't do that because I don't know how, no one I know has ever done that before. I'm not good enough, worthy enough, capable.
It's all a lie. Every word of it.
You can. You can do it on your own, without them, him, her, anyone. You can be the first in your family, first amongst the people that you know, to accomplish that. You know whether something is really safe (physically or emotionally) or not and can distinguish the difference. You can figure out how. There are people who care what you say, who care about learning from others, collaborating.
Don't let your fear or the fear that others have and try to place on you keep you small, in a dark corner, quiet. You are capable, I am capable. Expose fear for the liar it is; for me that usually means taking action, doing something that is uncomfortable, even if it is just a baby step. Embrace the truth of who you are and what you can do. You can, and that is the truth.