Recently I was listening to a podcast and the realtor being interviewed talked about the concept of resting instead of quitting.
This resonated with me so deeply. In 2012 I was having one of my very best years ever in business, but thought I had to do it all myself. I didn't understand how to delegate, how to ask for help, and definitely not how to rest. With three young children at home (my boys were 8, 6 and 2 at the time), and personally closing well over 50 transactions that year I was TIRED.
Instead of learning how to properly rest ... And this was with taking a vacation where I mostly unplugged, and taking Sundays each week with no appointments, I didn't really understand how to turn it off to take a break. I would squander my time during the day if I wasn't on appointments by running some errands, or if I was working at my computer I would spend hours endlessly researching something, anything that would help me to feel better, to be more productive. Then it would be time for my nanny to go home, I'd spend time with my family, then after they were in bed I would stay up into the wee hours of the night "catching up". Does this sound familiar to anyone?
Instead of learning to rest, learning how to properly manage my time, my energy and my business, I quit. After 10 years in business I quit to be a managing broker. It seemed like the perfect answer, only it wasn't. I truly enjoyed the work, and loved so many of the people, but in time I came to see that it wasn't a good fit. That it wasn't the right fit for me. Unfortunately it took the loss of my mother and the subsequent life changes for me to see that, but that is a story for another day.
Now, a little older, a little wiser, I've been back in the business of real estate sales, starting my business over, for 13 months now. This year I am on track to come very close to matching that last crazy busy year in production, with already having closed 28 transactions year to date. The difference this time, is I don't feel (as) tired.
I'm a wife, I'm a mom (of 3 boys, no less), I have a house, dogs, cats, and an aging parent to take care of, all on top of a busy, wonderful career that I love that includes a team of 12 incredible women to look after, help, manage and care for along with my business partner. I'm tired, I should be tired. You should be too. The difference now is that I am learning to rest. Learning to delegate, to ask for help, whether it is at work or at home. Now, with the right infrastructure in place for my business, strong systems and good energy and people, I've been able to get outside of my own head (because inside I have to do it all, just so, inside is hard), see more, understand more, do more ... And rest more.
Are you tired? When is the last time you rested in response to feeling tired? I'm not talking about just how many hours of sleep you get a night, but actually taking time off, time unplugged, taking a break for you. Whether it is 2 hours on a Tuesday afternoon to turn off your phone and read a book, or 20 minutes today to take a nap or a walk outside before lunch, when you feel tired, rest.
When you are feeling tired, how do you rest, or do you?